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More for peace of mind 
If I or one of the best men remembered a certain person giving a card and it isn’t on the spreadsheet then we’d know it’s gone missing and would have a check for it somewhere else 
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Originally posted by robbo robbo wrote:

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Originally posted by robbo robbo wrote:

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Keeping a spreadsheet LOLLOL ffs some sad tight ****s on here. 


Spreadsheets keep track of the style of thank you card you should send. All attendees should get one, but you should acknowledge the present, and the most efficient way to track is a spreadsheet.

On your spreadsheet do you keep track of each persons annual income and base their present as a percentage off of what they earn too in order to appropriately determine who gave the most? 

Obviously not. The purpose of a spreadsheet is just about tracking. It has nothing to do with evaluating the value of the present.

But you said it yourself “Spreadsheets keep track of the style of thank you card you should send”. Why would people get different thank you cards if you’re not evaluating their presents/contribution? 

Because you should send personalised messages. Some people you thank for attending. And for those who have gifts you should acknowledge the gift. It’s not easy to keep track. But etiquette determines that a simple “thank you” doesn’t suffice.

You can send personalized thank you messages to each of your guests without having to track them by present giving, it’s really not that difficult. How about you just use the invites list instead of a go fund my wedding page

The invite list tells you nothing about who gave you something, which you should be acknowldging.There is nothing Scrooge McDuck about it.
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Originally posted by Roberto Baggio Roberto Baggio wrote:

More for peace of mind 
If I or one of the best men remembered a certain person giving a card and it isn’t on the spreadsheet then we’d know it’s gone missing and would have a check for it somewhere else 

But if you didn’t remember how would you know? 
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Originally posted by Het-field Het-field wrote:

Originally posted by robbo robbo wrote:

Originally posted by Het-field Het-field wrote:

Originally posted by robbo robbo wrote:

Originally posted by Het-field Het-field wrote:

Originally posted by robbo robbo wrote:

Originally posted by Het-field Het-field wrote:

Originally posted by 9fingers 9fingers wrote:

Keeping a spreadsheet LOLLOL ffs some sad tight ****s on here. 


Spreadsheets keep track of the style of thank you card you should send. All attendees should get one, but you should acknowledge the present, and the most efficient way to track is a spreadsheet.

On your spreadsheet do you keep track of each persons annual income and base their present as a percentage off of what they earn too in order to appropriately determine who gave the most? 

Obviously not. The purpose of a spreadsheet is just about tracking. It has nothing to do with evaluating the value of the present.

But you said it yourself “Spreadsheets keep track of the style of thank you card you should send”. Why would people get different thank you cards if you’re not evaluating their presents/contribution? 

Because you should send personalised messages. Some people you thank for attending. And for those who have gifts you should acknowledge the gift. It’s not easy to keep track. But etiquette determines that a simple “thank you” doesn’t suffice.

You can send personalized thank you messages to each of your guests without having to track them by present giving, it’s really not that difficult. How about you just use the invites list instead of a go fund my wedding page

The invite list tells you nothing about who gave you something, which you should be acknowldging.There is nothing Scrooge McDuck about it.

But why do you need to know who gave what? Why do you need to address individuals differently based on what they gave you? Is the purpose of a wedding not the celebrate the day with the couple getting married rather than it being all about gifts or who gave what?
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Would you not send a thank you card regardless of a present? Most likely they’ve taken time off work, spent money on a hotel, money on clothes and or babysitters to spend a day in an uncomfortable suit to celebrate you
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Robbo is being so hypocritical here, big wedding, doesn't want any cash but will accept it, give me a break Confused

Guarantee it pays for most of his wedding which anyone with a brain has factored in no matter what cr*p they talk
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Originally posted by robbo robbo wrote:

Originally posted by Roberto Baggio Roberto Baggio wrote:

More for peace of mind 
If I or one of the best men remembered a certain person giving a card and it isn’t on the spreadsheet then we’d know it’s gone missing and would have a check for it somewhere else 

But if you didn’t remember how would you know? 

You wouldn’t 

But if you clearly remembered and there’s nothing on the spreadsheet then you’d know it’s gone missing 
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This thread has made me revisit a question I haven't thought of in a while: why the f**k does anybody get married?
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Originally posted by Il Principe Il Principe wrote:

Robbo is being so hypocritical here, big wedding, doesn't want any cash but will accept it, give me a break Confused

Guarantee it pays for most of his wedding which anyone with a brain has factored in no matter what cr*p they talk

I’m not explaining it again for you. Maybe try reading it all again and understanding my point rather than making up what you think I said 
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it’s like champions league.   You should hope for it but not budget for it like Leeds Utd.  Sounds like Robbo is the Daniel Levy of marriages and didn’t sign any new players ahead of the wedding.   He has got a new stadium (wife) which will allow him to earn more money in the future and reduce his tax bill.  
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Originally posted by Il Principe Il Principe wrote:

Robbo is being so hypocritical here, big wedding, doesn't want any cash but will accept it, give me a break Confused

Guarantee it pays for most of his wedding which anyone with a brain has factored in no matter what cr*p they talk

If you don’t have a wedding list you are saying in the most polite way possible - give us cash. Nobody (outside Cavan) will turn up to a wedding empty handed. Would you do it yourself?
Now unless you return all said cash/ give to charity / put it behind the bar you are talking absolutely through your hole.

Lads trying to take the high ground yet accepting every present given to them.  LOL

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Originally posted by 9fingers 9fingers wrote:

Would you not send a thank you card regardless of a present? Most likely they’ve taken time off work, spent money on a hotel, money on clothes and or babysitters to spend a day in an uncomfortable suit to celebrate you

Yes, you absolutely should.
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Originally posted by robbo robbo wrote:

Originally posted by Het-field Het-field wrote:

Originally posted by robbo robbo wrote:

Originally posted by Het-field Het-field wrote:

Originally posted by robbo robbo wrote:

Originally posted by Het-field Het-field wrote:

Originally posted by robbo robbo wrote:

Originally posted by Het-field Het-field wrote:

Originally posted by 9fingers 9fingers wrote:

Keeping a spreadsheet LOLLOL ffs some sad tight ****s on here. 


Spreadsheets keep track of the style of thank you card you should send. All attendees should get one, but you should acknowledge the present, and the most efficient way to track is a spreadsheet.

On your spreadsheet do you keep track of each persons annual income and base their present as a percentage off of what they earn too in order to appropriately determine who gave the most? 

Obviously not. The purpose of a spreadsheet is just about tracking. It has nothing to do with evaluating the value of the present.

But you said it yourself “Spreadsheets keep track of the style of thank you card you should send”. Why would people get different thank you cards if you’re not evaluating their presents/contribution? 

Because you should send personalised messages. Some people you thank for attending. And for those who have gifts you should acknowledge the gift. It’s not easy to keep track. But etiquette determines that a simple “thank you” doesn’t suffice.

You can send personalized thank you messages to each of your guests without having to track them by present giving, it’s really not that difficult. How about you just use the invites list instead of a go fund my wedding page

The invite list tells you nothing about who gave you something, which you should be acknowldging.There is nothing Scrooge McDuck about it.

But why do you need to know who gave what? Why do you need to address individuals differently based on what they gave you? Is the purpose of a wedding not the celebrate the day with the couple getting married rather than it being all about gifts or who gave what?


Yes, it is. But there is etiquette and formalities which post date the wedding and that includes thank you cards. The acknowledgement of the gift in the card indicates you got I but also that you acknowledge the gift.
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But just send the same card to everyone thanking them for the present and that way you shame the tight guys too and saves you the hassle of keeping excel spreadsheets and turning the whole operation into something straight out of an audit 


Edited by Baldrick - 20 Apr 2019 at 7:56pm
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Wedding thank you cards:

Couple attending give....

€100.....”thank you for being there and for your card and for your gift”

€200.....”thank you for being there and for your card and for your generous gift”

€300......”thank you for being there and for your card and for your very generous gift “

You thank them more lavishly for the more lavish gifts????


So your wedding is all about the money..... I hope you’ll both be very happy
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Would anyone here go to a wedding and not give a gift?
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But just send the same card to everyone thanking them for the present and that way you shame the tight guys too and saves you the hassle of keeping excel spreadsheets and turning the whole operation into something straight out of an audit 

But the intention is not to shame. Also, nobody will ever know, as I sincerely doubt people will discuss the contents of their Thank You cards.
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Originally posted by Lenny82 Lenny82 wrote:

Would anyone here go to a wedding and not give a gift?

Have you met Newry rep.  He didn’t even bring a gift to his mothers wedding. 


Edited by Baldrick - 20 Apr 2019 at 8:17pm
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