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notpropaganda73
Liam Brady Joined: 17 Feb 2016 Location: Donegal Status: Offline Points: 1067 |
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been a very rough 2023 so far, we moved house which was full on at the start of the year and then my partner (she's Spanish) got awful news from home - her first cousin died by suicide there last week. Apparently he had been struggling for a long time but kept it quiet. and just the drib drab of more information coming through as well, it's been awful. She's distraught over it, they were very close growing up, at their grannys for Christmas and New Year etc., but you know yourselves started drifting a little when they got older and just not keeping in touch as often. Thankfully we managed to get her home for the funeral but she's racked with guilt now, I've been that person left behind and asking all the questions and what you could have done different etc., but even though I understand how she's feeling I've no idea how to support her through it.
I don't mean to make it about me at all I just needed an outlet here to get it out a little, but I've been really struggling to support her I think, though I know she would say she appreciates how I've been there for her etc. Even though I'm probably hiding it well enough from her I'm struggling when I'm left alone, can't focus on my work at all (which is piling up big time) and just generally feeling extremely low/on the verge of tears. It's brought up a lot of old feelings of anxiety and depression so I'm looking at speaking with a counsellor again sooner rather than later. Thankfully I have private medical insurance through my work and there's a route through that to have sessions direct with counsellors or psychologists after initial assessment. My girlfriend is on my insurance plan as well so I think we'll do it together this weekend. anyway just needed to get that out
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Borussia
Roy Keane Joined: 14 Oct 2010 Location: UK Status: Offline Points: 10764 |
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Fill the time outside of your gaff as best you can - not always easy - and that hopefully makes your time at home “your space”.
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BigStrongMan
Robbie Keane Just Modding Like Joined: 22 May 2009 Location: Ireland Status: Offline Points: 107644 |
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Double Maxim
Robbie Keane Joined: 24 Sep 2008 Location: Sunderland Status: Offline Points: 42979 |
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Thanks I really appreciate those kind words.
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Double Maxim without doubt the greatest drink in the world
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MC Hammered
Jack Charlton Joined: 05 Oct 2011 Status: Offline Points: 6872 |
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You’re a good lad DM. I hope you have a great 2023
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Double Maxim
Robbie Keane Joined: 24 Sep 2008 Location: Sunderland Status: Offline Points: 42979 |
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I actually do some work with an autism guy reading to him which I love It's not so much finding new things to do I've a full itenary ( I was walking for about an hour this morning) it's coming back to a cold empty house anyway I feel positive currently having a pint of DM before watching the match. Thanks to you all for your kindness most appreciated.
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Double Maxim without doubt the greatest drink in the world
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Artie Ziff
Ray Houghton Joined: 10 Oct 2007 Status: Offline Points: 3619 |
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Howdy DM, I hope the Sunderland results are cheering you up a bit. It's the hardest time of the year for many. But there will always be another brighter day ahead.
As mentioned a new hobby in 2023 like hillwalking or sea walks groups are always looking for new members. Or perhaps volunteering with a charity, scouts, food banks, education centres etc. Personally, if I had time (maybe in the future) I'd teach adults to improve their reading skills. As the proverb goes give a man a fish you feed him for a day but teach him how to fish you feed him for life. |
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Trap junior
Robbie Keane YBIG Minister of Doom & Gloom Joined: 25 Jan 2010 Location: Irish Riviera Status: Offline Points: 39849 |
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Lonliness is a bitch but as said don't be fooled by social media or all that bolloxology DM. Maybe get stuck into some new activities in the new year. A social club or drama class etc.. literally anything to get meeting people. Staying on your own waiting to feel better is not the right approach. You should get proactive imo.
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Double Maxim
Robbie Keane Joined: 24 Sep 2008 Location: Sunderland Status: Offline Points: 42979 |
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The loneliness doesn't go away but thanks for the advice.
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Hotlips_Hoolahan
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Double Maxim
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Christmas on your own I wouldn't recommend it.
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Double Maxim without doubt the greatest drink in the world
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Huggybeer
Liam Brady Joined: 29 Mar 2011 Location: Ireland Status: Online Points: 1444 |
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Dont under estimate the impact of Winter dark evenings on form and energy levels |
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Getting old and intolerant
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Borussia
Roy Keane Joined: 14 Oct 2010 Location: UK Status: Offline Points: 10764 |
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The head is indeed a funny thing. Hopefully you are able to talk to those closest to you.
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ringerbell
Jack Charlton Joined: 12 Nov 2009 Location: Ireland Status: Offline Points: 8015 |
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the head a funny thing folks I've been in flying form all year and then the last few weeks I've been hit by sudden loss of form don't want to do anything. find it affecting friendships now as I keep cancelling or just not replying to people as it takes all my energy get through work etc without adding socialising into the mix
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the closest i will ever come to playing for ireland https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o0_7w4JyvI4
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Double Maxim
Robbie Keane Joined: 24 Sep 2008 Location: Sunderland Status: Offline Points: 42979 |
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Thanks appreciate that.
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Double Maxim without doubt the greatest drink in the world
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Artie Ziff
Ray Houghton Joined: 10 Oct 2007 Status: Offline Points: 3619 |
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Keep her lit DM
Always better days ahead
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Double Maxim
Robbie Keane Joined: 24 Sep 2008 Location: Sunderland Status: Offline Points: 42979 |
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Good points I had a couple of Double Maxims whilst over there too. |
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Double Maxim without doubt the greatest drink in the world
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thebronze14
Jack Charlton Derry City Til I Die Joined: 22 Feb 2011 Location: Dublin/Donegal Status: Offline Points: 7180 |
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An old walk by the sea is always good for the mind. Thinking about the craic at Rory G festival in a few months should help to
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