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Can imagine this time of year is tricky for a look of people.
RB, you've come out of this before and you will again. Take care mate.
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Lads, hope the darkness lifts for you. Read somewhere recently that early December is a very difficult time for people with mental health issues, so hopefully things will be better soon enough.
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Mind yourself lads and don’t be afraid to talk to people you love and trust and prioritise things you enjoy.  This too will pass.  
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Sorry to hear about your problems RB & Gaz.

I hate this time of the year dread Christmas the feeling of loneliness and can't wait for it to be over.
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Sorry to hear RB and good man for bringing it up Thumbs Up

I know of SAD being a thing (Seasonal Affective Disorder) - could you link it to that? Personally, I got an awful bout of what you're saying this time last year. It seemed to work itself out in the New Year without me doing anything in particular to help myself.  

Funnily enough, I went off the booze and feeling great for a few months in the build up to Xmas but then just felt dreadful throughout December. Down in the dumps, crippled with anxiety every day and constant sick feeling in the stomach. Still can't explain it. The head is a funny oul thing and hard to find any logic at times when you get a bout of this. 

Good to hear you've tried the counselling and meds etc. Not much else you can do except keep being proactive like you have been doing and always talk about it. You've gotten through it before and will get through it again. Always remember that 


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Christ lads Mental health is the most f**ked up thing. I should be living my best life at the minute in a good job, engaged to the best person you could meet and looking forward to a holiday of a lifetime to Orlando with her in march yet I'm in the worst form I've been in for ages literally feel like I'm present in body only my head is gone literally sitting here ready for work and can't be arsed

Can't understand how to beat the f**king thing I've done the counselling, I've done the meds etc and when I think I'm doing alright it comes back at me worse than ever 🤷‍♂️
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Poor man. Sorry to hear that SeaSharp, that's awful news. It's very difficult for anyone to process that sort of thing and try to understand it. Hope you are OK. 
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Fairly impromptu company meeting this morning, found out that one of my colleagues committed suicide earlier in the week. He was a nice bloke, a specialist in his field and fiercely intelligent. Not quite sure how to process it, but I can't stop thinking about why he chose to end it all. I hope he's found peace now anyway.
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Thanks both, really do appreciate the replies here and got a couple of PMs as well Thumbs Up
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well done prop and the missus, very proactive and positive thinking, best wishes to you both.
Great to see so many lads on here reply too, lovely to see folk recognise the reality of mental health struggles, hats off to you all.
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Fair play for being proactive on it prop. From personal circumstances, just doing something to try and help yourself has a positive snowball affect (i.e. booking in with counsellors, planning a trip away etc). 

I hope the counselling helps both of you and always feel free to offload on here 
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Originally posted by Gaz Gaz wrote:

Originally posted by notpropaganda73 notpropaganda73 wrote:

cheers for the replies folks, much appreciated Thumbs Up

How are you getting on now prop?

doing ok cheers for checking in Gaz 

had my assessment with the mental health nurse via my private insurance there on Monday and they've scheduled me a call with the counsellor next Monday. Would rather not be a phone but massive wait list for face-to-face appointments even through private apparently. 

Partner is having her first session this morning through the same insurance thank god. she's really struggling so I'm hoping it helps her cope a little. She'll be doing ok but little things will just send her over the edge (90% of the time work-related). She spoke with her boss on Monday about reducing her hours which was a big step, they're looking into how to make the rota work

We're off to Donegal then this afternoon for a long weekend, staying in Redcastle a couple nights and then driving in home on Saturday morning. We're gonna climb Errigal if the weather is alright as well. bringing my wetsuit so regardless of weather I'll be jumping into the sea which always helps clear my head.
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Originally posted by notpropaganda73 notpropaganda73 wrote:

cheers for the replies folks, much appreciated Thumbs Up

How are you getting on now prop?
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Get yourself out and go for a run and work up a sweat - it might help clear your head.
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cheers for the replies folks, much appreciated Thumbs Up
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Originally posted by notpropaganda73 notpropaganda73 wrote:

been a very rough 2023 so far, we moved house which was full on at the start of the year and then my partner (she's Spanish) got awful news from home - her first cousin died by suicide there last week. Apparently he had been struggling for a long time but kept it quiet. and just the drib drab of more information coming through as well, it's been awful. She's distraught over it, they were very close growing up, at their grannys for Christmas and New Year etc., but you know yourselves started drifting a little when they got older and just not keeping in touch as often. Thankfully we managed to get her home for the funeral but she's racked with guilt now, I've been that person left behind and asking all the questions and what you could have done different etc., but even though I understand how she's feeling I've no idea how to support her through it. 

I don't mean to make it about me at all I just needed an outlet here to get it out a little, but I've been really struggling to support her I think, though I know she would say she appreciates how I've been there for her etc. Even though I'm probably hiding it well enough from her I'm struggling when I'm left alone, can't focus on my work at all (which is piling up big time) and just generally feeling extremely low/on the verge of tears. It's brought up a lot of old feelings of anxiety and depression so I'm looking at speaking with a counsellor again sooner rather than later. Thankfully I have private medical insurance through my work and there's a route through that to have sessions direct with counsellors or psychologists after initial assessment. My girlfriend is on my insurance plan as well so I think we'll do it together this weekend. 

anyway just needed to get that out 

It does sound like from those who would know better than me that you've made the right move already. Hopefully you'll be back to feeling better soon.
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Originally posted by notpropaganda73 notpropaganda73 wrote:

been a very rough 2023 so far, we moved house which was full on at the start of the year and then my partner (she's Spanish) got awful news from home - her first cousin died by suicide there last week. Apparently he had been struggling for a long time but kept it quiet. and just the drib drab of more information coming through as well, it's been awful. She's distraught over it, they were very close growing up, at their grannys for Christmas and New Year etc., but you know yourselves started drifting a little when they got older and just not keeping in touch as often. Thankfully we managed to get her home for the funeral but she's racked with guilt now, I've been that person left behind and asking all the questions and what you could have done different etc., but even though I understand how she's feeling I've no idea how to support her through it. 

I don't mean to make it about me at all I just needed an outlet here to get it out a little, but I've been really struggling to support her I think, though I know she would say she appreciates how I've been there for her etc. Even though I'm probably hiding it well enough from her I'm struggling when I'm left alone, can't focus on my work at all (which is piling up big time) and just generally feeling extremely low/on the verge of tears. It's brought up a lot of old feelings of anxiety and depression so I'm looking at speaking with a counsellor again sooner rather than later. Thankfully I have private medical insurance through my work and there's a route through that to have sessions direct with counsellors or psychologists after initial assessment. My girlfriend is on my insurance plan as well so I think we'll do it together this weekend. 

anyway just needed to get that out 


Go for the counselling.   The assessment is an easy process, and you will probably have a 15/20 min call with a counsellor to help out initially and then they will set you up with a number of sessions with another counsellor in your area, or over the phone if you would prefer.
As mentioned, talking to someone helps a lot and can bring you back from 5th gear to 1st gear in your head.
Well done on starting to get it out.
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Originally posted by notpropaganda73 notpropaganda73 wrote:

been a very rough 2023 so far, we moved house which was full on at the start of the year and then my partner (she's Spanish) got awful news from home - her first cousin died by suicide there last week. Apparently he had been struggling for a long time but kept it quiet. and just the drib drab of more information coming through as well, it's been awful. She's distraught over it, they were very close growing up, at their grannys for Christmas and New Year etc., but you know yourselves started drifting a little when they got older and just not keeping in touch as often. Thankfully we managed to get her home for the funeral but she's racked with guilt now, I've been that person left behind and asking all the questions and what you could have done different etc., but even though I understand how she's feeling I've no idea how to support her through it. 

I don't mean to make it about me at all I just needed an outlet here to get it out a little, but I've been really struggling to support her I think, though I know she would say she appreciates how I've been there for her etc. Even though I'm probably hiding it well enough from her I'm struggling when I'm left alone, can't focus on my work at all (which is piling up big time) and just generally feeling extremely low/on the verge of tears. It's brought up a lot of old feelings of anxiety and depression so I'm looking at speaking with a counsellor again sooner rather than later. Thankfully I have private medical insurance through my work and there's a route through that to have sessions direct with counsellors or psychologists after initial assessment. My girlfriend is on my insurance plan as well so I think we'll do it together this weekend. 

anyway just needed to get that out 

Good man, talking is half the battle. Been similarly affected over the last five or six years, there’s never a chance to take a breath and relax but we’re getting there slowly. You’re doing absolutely the right things though. Good luck to you both.
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