How much do you stick in a wedding card?

ChuckVANSeagal wrote:

Sham157 wrote:

ChuckVANSeagal wrote:

If you don't get invited to the whole thing, why would you even go? I hate weddings but if I get an invite, I go. I wouldn't even correspond to an evening invite. Why do they even exist?

because you get to avoid the boring bit but can still go and sniff out the stale minge

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I tend to google the place and see how much it costs, then add on a bit.

Then again, a friend of mine was at a wedding in NYC recently which was $1,000 a plate. The bride's aul lad was a banker or somesuch and presumably footing the bill. I think you can make an exception in that case.

Usually give €150 between the two of us and a gift of some description if it's a close friend or relative.

We had 238 at our wedding, a lot of friends and close relations on both sides. Had the usual thing with the parents where they had certain friends they felt should be invited and we had to pare back the list from about 260. Had let people know that cash would be appropriate as we already had a gaff and had been living together years so had pretty much everything we needed.

Was only the following day when we were settling up with the hotel that we twigged, we'd have been better off letting the folks invite who they want, there's a sweet spot where you can actually end up in the black with a big crowd as the cost of the band, service musicians, whatever you have entertainment wise for the drinks reception, wedding cake etc is always the same regardless of how many people are there. Once you have that covered. Think it was €55 per head the hotel charged us for the meal, champagne reception, late night snacks etc so at an average of €150 per couple, would have been making profit once we had the set costs covered. Think we just about broke even after the cost of a round for everyone after the meal but another 20 or 30 bodies and we possibly could have covered the honeymoon! LOL

Some nightmare counting the cash in the hotel the following day after boozing till 7 in the morning on the night itself, mind you.....

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horsebox wrote:

I don't think I've met 238 people in my life

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Newryrep wrote:

horsebox wrote:

I don't think I've met 238 people in my life

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Was thinking the same

Absolutely, this thing of let's invite the aunties neighbours cat can go and sh*te.

I suppose you could easily get to 200 mark if you weee inviting the neighbours and all the cousins.
I've about 30 first cousins myself but I'll probably invite about 4 of them who I got on well with as they near my age: Wouldn't go inviting the whole lot of cousins and not inviting me neighbours.
Our list is immediate family, most Aunties and uncles (don't get on with one lot), close friends and close work colleagues. That alone is near 130 which is the minimum amount of people I need for me venue and I don't wanna go over that.

Claret Murph wrote:

I recall we had 51 at our wedding and if was up to me I would have trimmed that down to 16 .

Newryrep wrote:

Drumcondra 69er wrote:

horsebox wrote:

I don't think I've met 238 people in my life

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My missus has 40 first cousins so that was 80 including plus ones for a start!

2 siblings each is another 8 inc plus ones plus parents / grandparents could get you to 100 handy enough.

25 friends each plus ones is another hundred. Add in my extended family, aunts uncles, cousins and you're up at 240 no bother.

You'd be surprised how quick you can get up there tbh!

First.cousins ? Feck that I haven't seen a first cousin (about 15)in about 15 years

You can hardly blame them.....

the_walls wrote:

One of the hotels I was working at back in the day in Westport, if we had a wedding below 350 it was considered a "small" wedding

I am always amazed by Irish weddings in comparison to over here. Over here I regularly see wedding parties of ten or fifteen people who just go to the pub for a few drinks and a bite to eat, it seems so much more normal. I guess it is the 'Catholic' legacy where we overindulge in the sacraments.