The new mental health thread

ringerbell wrote: the head a funny thing folks I've been in flying form all year and then the last few weeks I've been hit by sudden loss of form don't want to do anything. find it affecting friendships now as I keep cancelling or just not replying to people as it takes all my energy get through work etc without adding socialising into the mix

Christmas on your own I wouldn't recommend it.

Hotlips_Hoolahan wrote: Double Maxim wrote: Christmas on your own I wouldn't recommend it. Ah some people hate their families DM. Don't be fooled by the airs people put on online and in public. Few more hours, one more sleep and it's over!

Howdy DM, I hope the Sunderland results are cheering you up a bit. It's the hardest time of the year for many. But there will always be another brighter day ahead. 

MC Hammered wrote: You’re a good lad DM. I hope you have a great 2023

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Edited by BigStrongMan - 28 Dec 2022 at 10:39pm

been a very rough 2023 so far, we moved house which was full on at the start of the year and then my partner (she's Spanish) got awful news from home - her first cousin died by suicide there last week. Apparently he had been struggling for a long time but kept it quiet. and just the drib drab of more information coming through as well, it's been awful. She's distraught over it, they were very close growing up, at their grannys for Christmas and New Year etc., but you know yourselves started drifting a little when they got older and just not keeping in touch as often. Thankfully we managed to get her home for the funeral but she's racked with guilt now, I've been that person left behind and asking all the questions and what you could have done different etc., but even though I understand how she's feeling I've no idea how to support her through it. 

notpropaganda73 wrote: been a very rough 2023 so far, we moved house which was full on at the start of the year and then my partner (she's Spanish) got awful news from home - her first cousin died by suicide there last week. Apparently he had been struggling for a long time but kept it quiet. and just the drib drab of more information coming through as well, it's been awful. She's distraught over it, they were very close growing up, at their grannys for Christmas and New Year etc., but you know yourselves started drifting a little when they got older and just not keeping in touch as often. Thankfully we managed to get her home for the funeral but she's racked with guilt now, I've been that person left behind and asking all the questions and what you could have done different etc., but even though I understand how she's feeling I've no idea how to support her through it.  I don't mean to make it about me at all I just needed an outlet here to get it out a little, but I've been really struggling to support her I think, though I know she would say she appreciates how I've been there for her etc. Even though I'm probably hiding it well enough from her I'm struggling when I'm left alone, can't focus on my work at all (which is piling up big time) and just generally feeling extremely low/on the verge of tears. It's brought up a lot of old feelings of anxiety and depression so I'm looking at speaking with a counsellor again sooner rather than later. Thankfully I have private medical insurance through my work and there's a route through that to have sessions direct with counsellors or psychologists after initial assessment. My girlfriend is on my insurance plan as well so I think we'll do it together this weekend.  anyway just needed to get that out

cheers for the replies folks, much appreciated