How much do you stick in a wedding card?

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 pre Madonna wrote:

 Drumcondra 69er wrote:

 pre Madonna wrote:

The logic of this astounds me, so apologies for continuing to ask questions! Why do you not give money if traveling abroad? Do the couple get the food for free outside of Ireland?

It's generally far far cheaper for catering outside of Ireland and there's a lot of expoense involved in travelling. It's hardly rocket science. 

Are you married, PM? If so, was getting the cost of everyone's dinner covered one of your main goals of the day?

Not yet, but I have a very different view of the purpose of a wedding, indeed of marriage itself,  that's why all this is so mad to me. I have gone to a couple of Irish weddings and they made me very uncomfortable, partly because of the expense, partly because of my own social anxiety and largely because they feel competitive.  I just don't get it. The expense for the guest in Ireland seemed very high, I am not sure it would be that much more expensive going abroad and you at least get a trip out of it. I had an aunt who got married in Rome when I was a kid, it was lovely and cost very little. Comparatively at least.

The whole thing blows my mind, it's completely outside my remit of comprehension.I do enjoy the language used around them though, it is wonderfully bizarre.

Would agree. Everything around Irish weddings is bizarre, from the cost of the venues to the expected payments made by guests. This is surely something that has only taken hold in the last 20 years or so, the fact that everybody expects a guest to pony up 200 euros per couple?

I'll hold my hand up and say I'm a hypocrite because I have plenty of times in the last few years given such money to the bride and groom. It just feels like the whole wedding day becomes about the wrong thing at times.

I've a few friends who've gone abroad either by themselves, or with a handful of close family to get married in recent years. It seems much closer to what I would think the whole thing should be about. Or am I in a small minority that thinks there's an awful sense of keeping up with the Jones' about Irish weddings?